When you google search “how to become a strong person” you get around 151,000,000 results. It is all there! Techniques, sources for motivation, positive affirmations, self-management tools, everything is laid out for you in steps.
Day in day out, in my field of work, I meet strong self-made individuals; managers, executives and CEOs who have managed, over the years, to build a good reputation, an outstanding resume and, some even, huge industries and multinational companies. I have watched these people and noticed common factors, those that do not show up in any google search. What allowed these individuals to build resilience over time?
The common denominator was not only their perseverance but how they managed to become their own coach and cheerleader over time.
Two years ago, I have set a health and fitness goal for myself and have motivated myself enough to become a regular at a gym nearby my office. I was so dedicated and motivated that each time I walked in, I walked out injured! I decided to hire a personal trainer thinking I was doing things wrongly and after my first session, the trainer looked at me and said: “Now, you have to rest, take time to recover before we can continue”.
Huh!…recovery? I said to myself, what does that mean?!.
I thought it was all about perseverance and giving it your best. The word “recovery” was new to me, the idea of resting was downright traumatizing!
“Physiologic improvement of your body can only occur during the rest period.” Amine Dib.
According to Amine Dib, fitness expert and personal trainer “During recovery period, the cardiovascular system and the muscular system build to greater levels to compensate for the stress that you have applied during exercise. It is resting that makes you stronger, because it is resting that allows the muscles you have broken down during daily training to heal and get stronger.” That is what Amine told me.
I forced myself to rest and when I came back, I came back stronger than ever before.
Neuroscientists through the concept of neuroplasticity have proven the brain to be a muscle and not an organ, meaning that it is not set in its way of being and is always susceptible to improvement, each experience and/or repeated action can influence and/or shape the neurological and spatial constitution of our brain.
Strong people persevere, they know how to motivate themselves, they are constantly on the move and the idea of slowing down scares them. By with disregarding proper recovery time, aren’t we plateauing in strength?
If the brain is a muscle, to become mentally and psychologically stronger, shouldn’t we be resting as well? Instead of constantly challenging ourselves and rising to challenges all around us maybe we should follow the same “recovery” system and simply take a break!
Personally, in meditation, I found a space of rest for my ideas and thoughts. Now I meditate regularly between projects, meetings and especially before taking a decision.
Share with me your thoughts on this subject, have you have plateaued mentally? Have you ever missed a good night’s rest overwhelmed by your thoughts? Mental exhaustion leads to burnouts, what have you use as methods to quite and distract your mind?
With love & authenticity,